It has been an everlasting debate between a friend of mine and me- "Does true love exist? Is there actually a perfect someone made for everyone..ala "Dil to pagal he" ? Do "The notebook"-style love affairs actually exist? Does every Cinderella find her Prince Charming and ride with him into the sunset ?
In all honesty, having been eternally single, both my friend and I, base our debates on our beliefs/ hopes...,
Love. A simple four letter word. There should have been nothing complicated about it. But, it is complication personalized. We love and we expect... We care and they don't always care back... When I look around, the ratio of happy endings to not-so-happy-endings is not very encouraging. That being said, people still want to fall in love. (No wonder they call it "falling" in love!!! No one ever "rises" in love, you see... )
It is easy to fall in love with someone...it is difficult to have it both ways.If that happens, by some miracle, it is tough to make it last. Call it cynicism, but I think I am entitled to it, having seen broken marriages and ugly divorces all my life.
It is pointless to discuss without an illustration.
Love story-1
"A" Boy meets "B" girl... High school sweet hearts.. Parents have been told and convinced... Everything is lovey-dovey... Then,the twist... "A" and "B" get into college.. not the same, but different ones... both very far from one another. For about an year their love survives the gulf of distance and the bitter taste of loneliness.But, slowly thereafter, something begins to change. Our hero "A" goes all crazy.. Writes love poems.. Becomes a modern day Dev-D and slowly gets introduced into the enchanting, stress busting world of alcohol and cigerrates. Then, one fine day "A" boy bumps into "G" girl... Ta da... "G" falls in love with "A" and "A" too begins to like her. It goes on for a while... Within the next 2 years or so, "A" goes on and meets girls "C", "D", "E".....( and yes, "G" is still around.. ) makes them all fall for him and likes them in his own way (or so he liked to say).
College ends...
"A" goes back home...
"A" marries "B".
Happy ending? I am not too sure of that.
Love story-2
"X" boy meets "Y" girl in college. "X" instantly proposes. "Y" doesn't agree. "X" persists... "Y" finally agrees. Both of them become inseparable. But, "X" is not that easy a man to love. He is good old Praan or Gabbar revisited. (Fancy Basanti falling for Gabbar! :) lolz.. ) Most of the days, "Y" is found saying "Sorry, I won't do it again" over the phone or crying her eyes out in the bathroom. But, after all that is over, she is spotted the next day, unfailingly, looking into the glittering blue eyes of "X"... maybe sitting in a restaurant having lunch or in some park with an ice cream cone in her hands.
It is official.
"X" is going to marry "Y" this December,
You are all invited to the wedding.. ( lolz... :) )
Happy ending, yes... But, will it always remain happy? I wonder.
Moral of the stories-
Love is just good old compromise at the end of the day, either with someone you care about or without. It is just choosing a different story for yourself.
How does it make you feel? Well, I'll have to wait for the day I "fall" to tell you that!
Till then...
Friendship isn't too bad either! :)
In all honesty, having been eternally single, both my friend and I, base our debates on our beliefs/ hopes...,
Love. A simple four letter word. There should have been nothing complicated about it. But, it is complication personalized. We love and we expect... We care and they don't always care back... When I look around, the ratio of happy endings to not-so-happy-endings is not very encouraging. That being said, people still want to fall in love. (No wonder they call it "falling" in love!!! No one ever "rises" in love, you see... )It is easy to fall in love with someone...it is difficult to have it both ways.If that happens, by some miracle, it is tough to make it last. Call it cynicism, but I think I am entitled to it, having seen broken marriages and ugly divorces all my life.
It is pointless to discuss without an illustration.
Love story-1
"A" Boy meets "B" girl... High school sweet hearts.. Parents have been told and convinced... Everything is lovey-dovey... Then,the twist... "A" and "B" get into college.. not the same, but different ones... both very far from one another. For about an year their love survives the gulf of distance and the bitter taste of loneliness.But, slowly thereafter, something begins to change. Our hero "A" goes all crazy.. Writes love poems.. Becomes a modern day Dev-D and slowly gets introduced into the enchanting, stress busting world of alcohol and cigerrates. Then, one fine day "A" boy bumps into "G" girl... Ta da... "G" falls in love with "A" and "A" too begins to like her. It goes on for a while... Within the next 2 years or so, "A" goes on and meets girls "C", "D", "E".....( and yes, "G" is still around.. ) makes them all fall for him and likes them in his own way (or so he liked to say).
College ends...
"A" goes back home...
"A" marries "B".
Happy ending? I am not too sure of that.
Love story-2
"X" boy meets "Y" girl in college. "X" instantly proposes. "Y" doesn't agree. "X" persists... "Y" finally agrees. Both of them become inseparable. But, "X" is not that easy a man to love. He is good old Praan or Gabbar revisited. (Fancy Basanti falling for Gabbar! :) lolz.. ) Most of the days, "Y" is found saying "Sorry, I won't do it again" over the phone or crying her eyes out in the bathroom. But, after all that is over, she is spotted the next day, unfailingly, looking into the glittering blue eyes of "X"... maybe sitting in a restaurant having lunch or in some park with an ice cream cone in her hands. It is official.
"X" is going to marry "Y" this December,
You are all invited to the wedding.. ( lolz... :) )
Happy ending, yes... But, will it always remain happy? I wonder.
Moral of the stories-
Love is just good old compromise at the end of the day, either with someone you care about or without. It is just choosing a different story for yourself.
How does it make you feel? Well, I'll have to wait for the day I "fall" to tell you that!
Till then...
Friendship isn't too bad either! :)
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